“That Was Just Sex, But This Is My Work:” On Sex, Identity, and Meaning

cw for relentless self-exposure and sex mention.   In the first essay of Lena Dunham’s Not That Kind of Girl, “Take My Virginity (No, Really, Take It)” Dunham writes about the intersection of sex and identity, recounting the tale of her first sexual encounter with a collegiate friend, its dull aches, its odd noises. Of… More “That Was Just Sex, But This Is My Work:” On Sex, Identity, and Meaning

That Time I Accidentally Fell In Love, And It Was the Worst

CW: Some of the language recalled in conversation is abusive and could be triggering.  I spent a lot of time not loving anybody. Perhaps I was in love with the ribbed sides of books, the smell of their yellowing pages, or the breve at the top of a coffee cup, steamed and foaming against my… More That Time I Accidentally Fell In Love, And It Was the Worst

Stop Being So Sanctimonious About Last Night’s AHS

A great big huge enormous trigger warning for graphic discussion of sexual assault. Last night, “American Horror Story: Hotel” premiered on FX, making a clean-sweep of the ratings with over five million viewers, as projected and in line with last year’s thunderous opening. It’s no question that the episodic drama featuring an ensemble-cast of ragtags… More Stop Being So Sanctimonious About Last Night’s AHS

I’m A Pro-Life Feminist, And It’s Uncomfortable

First of all, before I get dragged across the internet for being anti-woman, let me explain that I’m a feminist. I believe in gender equality. I don’t believe in gender roles. Equal pay for everyone, access to safe and reliable birth control, and busting through the glass ceiling like nobody’s business give me life. End… More I’m A Pro-Life Feminist, And It’s Uncomfortable